Mahatria , very small things, petty things…
make me cry, and I want to get over it…
First understand the issue with this, okay,
then we will talk about the solution.
The moment you cry… I’m talking about negative crying.
I’m not talking about crying in gratitude, crying in happiness…
The moment you cry because you’re angry,
you’re upset, you feel hurt, you feel not respected,
you feel not valued, the more you cry, you’re becoming weak.
You’re giving power to the entire environment around you,
everybody becomes more powerful.
Your classmates become powerful,
your teacher becomes powerful,
your siblings become powerful,
your relatives become powerful,
your parents become powerful.
You are making yourself weak
by reaching the threshold of emotions.
I don’t know whether you can practice this or not.
You’re still young,
I think you will grow through this and become strong enough eventually.
I don’t know whether you can practice this or not.
But I’ll tell you something I practice
you should hear it.
I’ll come back to what you can do.
Several years back, I told myself,
‘My tears are too precious…’
I’ll give you the whole sequence.
I told myself, ‘My tears are too precious.
And I am not wasting it on people who do not deserve it’.
You should deserve my tears.
You should be worthy of my tears.
I’m not giving it to anybody and everybody.
It’s a very strong decision I have taken.
I’m ready, even today, to talk about my mother and cry.
I think she deserves it.
I’m ready to shed tears for…
what must be an environment of trust
that we have created that you are ready to stand up
and ask this question forgetting you are in public!
How much you should be trusting this environment and me
for you to be asking this question!
Not every adolescent child will be able to ask!
I wish, we can create more and more such environments
where people feel they are in an environment where
they will not be judged
and they can trust that environment.
I can cry for that.
But I will not cry for a lot of things.
I took this decision long time back…
‘My tears are too precious.
And I’m not giving it to people who do not deserve it’.
It was a great moment of liberation!
Two – as much as possible.
I want to cry positive tears and not negative tears.
In fact, when I go even to a grieving home,
I tell them,
‘Tell me all the best memories you’re able to remember
about your dad about your mom or about your Dadi’.
Because I feel when God has allowed us to cry positive tears,
why should we cry negative tears?
Three, told myself I will not cry for myself,
I will cry only for the world.
Not a drop of tear I will cry for my sake.
What I am going through in life or
what happened to me? What…
I will not shed a drop of tears for myself.
If at all I cry, I will cry for the world.
Just on these three decisions…
Only those who deserve my tears will get my tears.
Preferably I want to cry, tears out of positive emotions than negative emotions…
I want to cry for the world not for myself.
More than anything, it has made me such a strong person,
in the entire process.
Whatever you can practice your practice…
Personally, I’m telling you,
it’s a phase that you’re going through…
Adolescent years… when we get into it.
One – there is a lot of physiological change.
Puberty… the body is undergoing changes,
the hormones are different.
So, not you, Mama also would have gone through…
Dadi also would have gone through…
Everybody goes through this.
When you enter into…
this is one phase…
If you have parents who are in that 45 to 50 age bracket…
they will also be going through this;
because when you’re around menopause,
again, you go through this change
where there’s a lot of harmonal…
So there is so much of emotions…
We are designed like this.
I don’t know why we have never been taught like this.
Every girl between the age of 10, 11, 12, 13
whenever they attained the puberty
to 18 will be emotionally volatile
and every woman again,
somewhere around early 40s,
mid 40s to when menopause completely happens
will be emotionally volatile.
Everybody will be this.
If there is anything we need a lot more family members
to stand by them and say,
’I understand’.
We need to hear a lot more ‘I understand’.
‘Sorry’. ‘Thank you’. ‘It’s okay’. ‘Don’t overthink’.
So all I’m asking you right now is
next time when a small thing upsets you
and you cry…
Cry.
Finish it.
Get to the next moment.
What is affecting you is
not you crying for small moments
you overthink after the incident.
‘I don’t know why I cried’.
You you go into a loop.
You know, you hit yourself psychologically.
It’s okay.
Dho tap hai. Kulla hai. Ok.
Never dries.
And they say eye infection never comes as long as you keep lubricating your eyes.
So chaltha hey. Ok.
It’s ok.
